The power of been ALONE

 

Hi everyone, I'll be talking about the power of being alone. 

This is straight out of my dairy so it can be little creepy, so bear with it.

So what does that entail? 

I grew up as a single child until my peace breaker was born (8 years age gap). It's actually one of my favorite things to do. If anything, the past couple of years I had to learn how to be with more people and enjoy socializing and not just working or doing spending time on my own projects all the time. So it definitely was a skill of me learning this in reverse. I think it's really important in our lives to embrace being alone and to learn how to enjoy it and kind of milk it for all the good things that we can. 

And at the end of the day, we are, ultimately and perhaps slightly ironically, all alone together in this world.

First of all being alone allows you to be a lot more picky on what you're spending your time with and who you are spending your time with. If you enjoy being alone, then when you are given the opportunity to go to an event or to meet up with people you're going to be a little pickier because you really enjoy being by yourself and working on whatever you love. 

I think when people have a fear of being alone with themselves and they constantly surround themselves with people that can be a sign of something else that they need to deal with in some way and look there's nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with lots of people and creating wonderful memories together. I love doing that, but I also know that I need a certain amount of time alone to actually get all the stuff that I need to get done done and because when you're alone, it also allows you to process thoughts, emotions and feelings and maybe traumas from the past.

And that's kind of something I've also found really valuable, especially the past six months is when I am alone just walking around or doing chores in my room that suddenly popped into my head of like Oh my God this thing that happened to me, actually happened because of all these other triggers are like all these other circumstances that happened in my life that I had not processed properly. 

So I think that's another really good point of why you should be alone more, because it forces your brain to kind of suddenly push things to the forefront that you would otherwise repressed because you're distracted with things around you instead or being with people etc. 

And I don't think you need to feel necessarily inspired to be creative. I think if anything, inspiration or being creative takes practice you just need self-discipline to sit down and be like OK, I'm going to work on this now….Start and that is another great reason for being alone, especially if the art you create or the science or math or whatever that you create requires being alone or requires teamwork, that's a different story. But at least for me, a lot of my work takes place alone and I know at the end of the day it's not about I wasn't feeling creative or not it's more just like “did I have the self-discipline? And do I sit down and tell myself to do work and start another thing?”. Another thing about being alone is that you often rediscover or just discover new hobbies or new skills that you had or ones that you had in the past and I think during COVID we've actually seen a huge rise in crafting, DIY ing and making things with your hands or cooking whatever that may be. Because we've all felt a need to do something 

There was some study and I need to quote it but unfortunate i am not able to find the link of that but in that I read about just like people, happiness in general going up when you're doing things with your hands which honestly just makes so much sense, and I personally fallen to flow sort of very wonderful meditative state when I'm just taking old electronics part with my hands or crafting or sketching making things or coming up with cool ideas and drawing them out. 

I think when your left to your own devices, not technical devices or electronic devices, when you put those away and you're truly left with your own devices and your brain, you're going to start coming up with ideas coming up with new interests that you may have, or discovering hobbies or things you really enjoy doing. 

So spend time find hobbies with your hands and enjoy that power of being alone. 

The last point I want to make, which I did kind of bring up in the beginning, is that ultimately we are all alone together in this world. And that you need to learn to be there for yourself and not always to rely on other people. 

At the end of the day you need to be able to save yourself. You cannot rely for someone, or you know tch , a knight in shining armor riding on a horse. 

You know horses are good thing. 

A knight in shining armor to come and save you, you have to be your own Knight. 

You have to come save yourself, rescue yourself from whatever you're facing and push forth. And I think that's also, just part of Adulting in general that I have discovered over the past couple of years is that you need to do things yourself, or else they're just not going to get done and you need to be OK with it just being yourself sometimes, and that's a really scary thing for a lot of people to process. 

So if anything in 2022, at least with how things are going right now learn to spend some time with yourself and really be OK with that. And not just OK, but enjoy it anyways. 

Thank you so much for reading this till the end. 

I hope you enjoyed this blog. 

I also encourage talking out loud to yourself when you are alone, since you have conversations or if it's like too tiring, just talk to yourself in your head. 

I don't know if I sound crazy, but sometimes the best conversations you can have are with yourself. Let me just say that anyways, thank you so much for reading. 

My name is Alankrit Sharma. 

I should have said it at the beginning but you can find me on Twitter @Tirk_nala. I will see you next time, bye.